📚 Week #38 of 52 of reading

So many books, so little time. I definitely used a few long flights to read & really enjoyed the books I read. I’ll call it: lean into important, essential (and possibly challenging) topics to grapple with. 

Likeable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve By Alison Fragale 

Read the book: https://amzn.to/3ZF1Ont

This book provides a new way to look at some of the challenges that women face in the workplace, including actionable recommendations. 

📘 Telling a strong story isn’t about being quick on your feet. It’s about thoughtful preparation & practice. 

‼️ Use your long-term priorities to guide today’s decisions. 

❤️ Looking at the full picture of your life - where are you, who’s with you, what you are doing - helps you make decisions today toward that future. 

😡 The important reminder of the “motherhood penalty” (which I’ve lived lately) & the truth about how best to guide our choices in life. 

🤔 The idea of “fractional mentors” - and our shared responsibility in mentoring those around us. 

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“Let’s Talk About It: Turning Confrontation into Collaboration at Work” by Dr. Paul Marciano 

Read the book: https://amzn.to/4dr3O60

⁉️ What if we changed our mindset from telling ourselves we must face a difficult conversation to believing we have the skills to engage in a healthy conversation? 

💯 A productive conversation takes place when both people speak & listen to each other. The issue gets resolved promptly & both people leave the interaction feeling complete and move on without resentment. 

⁉️ Are you more committed to avoiding conflict or having a healthy relationship? 

😳 The concept of “reactive devaluation” — the idea that we devalue proposals made by those we consider adversaries. (Note: This connects with my suggestion that we can’t have heroes & villains at work … imagine how much collaboration we could have if there were less “adversaries” around us?)

🤯 A truly dangerous mindset is to believe you have the best answer. 

⭐️ Ambiguity is the enemy of a productive conversation. 

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Burnout Immunity: How Emotional Intelligence Can Help You Build Resilience & Heal Your Relationship with Work by Kandi Wiens 

Read the book: https://amzn.to/3ZHQMxT

I love this framework around burnout immunity & leveraging emotional intelligence. Let’s be honest - EQ is a tool that impacts all aspects of our life.

⭐️ Burnout immunity skills:

(1) Awareness

(2) Regulation 

(3) Meaningful connection

(4) Mindset

(5) Recover, Reconnect, and Reimagine

💯 When your individual values are incompatible with your organization’s demonstrated values, you’re in a situation that leaves you vulnerable to burnout.

⭐️ Toxic workers spread their negative emotions and harmful behavior to others.

4️⃣ main elements that fuel and maintain a positive outlook: positive emotions, self-efficacy, optimism, & hope.

‼️ Remove “joy crushers” from work

4️⃣ vital mindsets for acquiring burnout immunity: Positive outlook, Stress-is-enhancing, Servant leader, & Aware and care mindset

There is SO much practical tools in this book